Behold: v. To observe; look at; to see. To regard; gaze upon.
The word Behold (past tense beheld) is used over and over again in the Bible. It is used in terms of regaling in the holy presence of Jesus. It is also used as a term of how Jesus looked at those around Him.
He beheld them.
A friend of mine was talking about a verse in the Bible that told about how two men came upon Jesus and He turned and beheld them. He gave them His full attention. Regardless that He was busy, regardless that He had come to save the world,
regardless of all He had going on He stayed in the moment and regarded them fully. And that is exactly where it hit me.
How often do I rush through my day - my life - without beholding what is right here in front of me? How often do I tell my kiddos to "hold on" or "give me a minute" - as if whatever I am doing is more important than them?
I have shared
this blog before, but I think it is worth sharing again for anyone else who struggles with their tech devices being a constant distraction for them. It's not an easy decision to cut out "staying connected," but for me it has been an important one. I deactivated my Facebook page a little over a year ago, but then as more and more people mentioned to me that I should link my blog to FB, I did so. I linked my blog with the intention of just getting it out there; simple as that. But as technology does, it sucked me back in. And I began to notice that I was getting back to the same place of putting off the important things that are
right here in front of me, to stay connected with things that are not.
And that is simply not where I want to go.
Andy Stanley asks the question "In light of my past experience, current circumstances, and future hopes and dreams - what is the wise thing for me to do?"
Ephesians 5:15–16 says this, "Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil."
While I am not saying that technology is evil, the effects that constant technology is having on our lives, our relationships, and our families is evil. Satan wants nothing more than to break apart our families. To tune us out to their needs by keeping us so distracted that we do not behold them as the gifts they are.
Now, I'll be honest. Because of my severance with FB, I have been told that "I live in a black hole" that I am "incredibly hard to get in touch with" (as if my cell doesn't work without FB), and that I am making it harder on others to keep in touch with. Maybe there is some validity in those statements. But honestly, the "black hole" that I am accused of living in.........it's my family. And that's exactly where I want to be found. I want to devote every living and waking moment to my family because these moments go by way too fast. And I will never get them back.
1 Thessalonians 4:11 says, "Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: You should mind your own business." In light of my future dreams of having strong relationships with my children, that my children will want to spend time with me as they grow - I am choosing to lead a quiet life. It is most certainly the unpopular choice in society, but it's worth it. I don't want to be so distracted that I miss out on the life God has given me. I don't want to miss the short years that I have been given with my family.
Children notice everything, don't make the mistake believing that they don't. Birdie makes repeated comments about a dad and mom who come to "watch" their little boy play tennis each week...who never look up from their cell phones. She says, "Mama, why do they even come? They don't ever watch him play, they're just always looking at their phones." That could easily be me. But I refuse to let it.
The wise thing for me was to delete my Facebook account (it's a process, and I don't know if my "waiting period" is over yet or not). I have thought about giving up my blog, but haven't had clarity of that decision yet. I process through things as I write about them, so it's good for me; and I hope it somehow blesses others. But I have to be intentional, to choose to behold the here and now - my children and the life that is here before me. I hope that as you read this blog that you will be intentional about making any changes that help you live wisely and make the most out of every opportunity.